Lydia Yinger, LMFT

Individual, Couples, and Group Therapy

Therapy for symptoms associated with codependency, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-worth.

I approach therapy from a perspective that emphasizes understanding rather than labeling. Labels can sometimes become stories we tell ourselves about who we are. Instead, I help clients explore the origins of their patterns with compassion and curiosity. For example, rather than “I am codependent”, we might explore the understanding that “I learned to put others’ needs before my own.” This shift creates space for growth, choice, and change.

If you are exhausted from struggling with symptoms of valuing others’ needs before your own, and/or you connect deeply with a harsh inner critic, you’re not alone. These patterns are common and often developed early in our lives as a way to protect ourselves, stay connected with others, or avoid conflict. We can learn how to shift from these survival strategies (which were important at the time), to practicing new patterns which form healthy relationships with ourselves and others.

You Might Recognize Yourself Here

  • You walk on eggshells and silence your needs to keep the peace

  • You say yes when you want to say no

  • You feel guilty when you prioritize yourself

  • You fear that setting boundaries will lead to rejection

  • You give endlessly and still feel it’s never enough

  • You feel pressure to be perfect or “do it right”

  • Your inner critic is loud and relentless

  • You feel disconnected, lonely, or emotionally shut down

  • You’re tired of being the strong one

These experiences are often rooted in low self-worth, not because you lack value, but because you learned to measure your worth through others.

How Therapy Helps

Therapy offers a calm, compassionate space to understand and shift these patterns—without blame or judgment.

My work focuses on increasing self-awareness, strengthening self-compassion, and helping you reconnect with your emotional and relational needs. Together, we’ll explore your thoughts, emotions, and body signals so you can respond differently instead of staying stuck in old survival patterns.

Through therapy, you can:

  • Heal from codependency and chronic people-pleasing

  • Quiet the inner critic and build self-trust

  • Set boundaries without guilt or fear

  • Feel more present and connected in relationships

  • Reclaim a grounded sense of self-worth

I work with individuals and couples who are motivated for meaningful change and ready to create healthier, more authentic relationships.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

If you’re here, something in you already knows the current way isn’t working.

Change doesn’t come from pushing harder - it begins with self-compassion—and learning to relate to yourself differently, with gentleness, humor, love, and respect.

Therapy can help you come home to yourself.

👉 Schedule a consultation to see if we’re a good fit.